Answer honestly — there are no wrong answers. This is for you, not a grade.
Question 1 of 15
Does your partner (or ex-partner) frequently dismiss or minimize your feelings, telling you that you're "too sensitive" or "overreacting"?
Yes, this happens regularly
No, this doesn't happen
Question 2 of 15
Have you experienced your partner twisting situations so that you end up feeling responsible for their mistakes or bad behavior (gaslighting)?
Yes, I often end up apologizing when I haven't done anything wrong
Question 3 of 15
Has your partner ever used threats (to leave, harm themselves, or expose something about you) to get you to comply with their wishes?
Yes, threats are used to enforce compliance
Question 4 of 15
Has your partner isolated you from friends, family, or support networks through jealousy, criticism, or making it difficult to maintain those relationships?
Yes, I feel increasingly isolated from people who care about me
Question 5 of 15
Does your partner control or monitor finances, limit your access to money, or require you to account for every expense?
Yes, I have limited financial independence or privacy
Question 6 of 15
Does your partner read your messages, check your location, go through your belongings, or otherwise monitor your activities without your consent?
Yes, my privacy is regularly violated
Question 7 of 15
Do you find yourself walking on eggshells — constantly monitoring your own behavior to avoid triggering your partner's anger or withdrawal?
Yes, I constantly manage my behavior to keep the peace
Question 8 of 15
Has your partner cycled between treating you like you were the most special person in the world and then suddenly withdrawing affection, criticizing, or ignoring you?
Yes, this hot-and-cold cycle is a pattern in the relationship
Question 9 of 15
Has your partner humiliated, mocked, or belittled you in front of others — and then dismissed it as "just a joke" or accused you of being too sensitive?
Yes, I have been publicly humiliated and told I overreacted
Question 10 of 15
Have you ever felt pressured, guilt-tripped, or coerced into sexual activity you were not comfortable with?
Yes, I have felt coerced or pressured sexually
Question 11 of 15
Do you frequently doubt your own memory or perception of events — sometimes wondering if you imagined things that actually happened?
Yes, I regularly question my own memory and reality
Question 12 of 15
Has your partner subjected you to ongoing criticism, name-calling, or put-downs that have eroded your confidence or self-worth?
Yes, I feel significantly worse about myself since being in this relationship
Question 13 of 15
Did your relationship begin with overwhelming attention, gifts, flattery, or declarations of love that felt too intense or too fast?
Yes, the early relationship felt unusually intense and fast-moving
Question 14 of 15
Does your partner give you the silent treatment, sulk, or emotionally withdraw as punishment when you displease them?
Yes, emotional withdrawal is regularly used as punishment
Question 15 of 15
Do you feel like you have lost your sense of identity, interests, or goals since being in this relationship?
Yes, I feel like I've lost myself in this relationship