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Whole Loaf Community Application

The Whole Loaf Community is for high-achieving women who are so done chasing to be seen, done people pleasing, done shrinking for other’s comfort, done earning to belong, and so ready to put their own needs, desires, and dreams first. Not once everyone's okay with it. But now! Because it’s time!

Welcome dear

Let’s take a deep breath, and notice: you're here. Most women read that first page and close the tab, promising themselves they'll come back when life calms down. You didn't. Remember that about yourself.

One thing before you get to the questions: 

For a woman who has spent her life reading rooms the second she enters, a form can feel like one more “room to read”. So please know, that there is nothing expected from you here, and nothing to perform about. Some of the questions are optional, and skipping them is a complete answer. Every honest answer is a rep of the exact thing we practice inside the Whole Loaf Community: being you, without managing others.

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Question 1 of 10

This is what the community is like:

Before I ask about you, it's only fair that I tell you about us.

The Whole Loaf Community is created on a few things I protect whole heartedly and fiercely

You come first here. Choosing yourself is not selfish. It's the whole assignment, and we practice it together until it stops feeling dangerous to your nervous system.

A warm cushion, not a hot seat. This is a practice space. Sometimes you'll rehearse the no, the uncomfortable ask, the conversation you've been avoiding, and instead of thinking about it as being on a ‘hot seat’ you will actually be on a warm cushion with so much support, comfort, compassion, and playfulness. This is how we change best - without shame, but with mutual respect and support.

Compassion instead of shame. You will not be judged for how long you stayed, how often you slip back into old patterns, or how scared you are. Not ever. We all get it! Including myself, who is going to be right here with you.

Real over polished. We tell the truth about how we actually are. This is the room where the ‘I got this’’, or ‘the strong-one’ masks can rest at the door; let’s say it has earned a break.

We rise in ripples. When one woman stops abandoning herself, it echoes through this room. We all live through each other’s experiences and it is finally a space where we don’t have to do it alone. Women coming together in such compassionate, safe, and courageous spaces are medicine!!! And the healing that happens in this room is rippling even further to your families, work, and the generations after. Your healing is bigger than you.

And in fairness, who this community is NOT for:  

It's not the right community if you're in an acute crisis right now; if you find yourself in that phase right now, you deserve a therapist's care first, and the community will be here for later.

And if the untangling of what happened with the person who hurt you is still fresh, know that this is exactly what my course "Not Your Fault. Not Your Future." carries, and the community is where you practice the new pattern with women who get it. Many of you will do both, and that's by design. 

And, it's not the right community if you're looking for a place to observe from the back row.  This community lives from everyone's participation, every member's presence and contributions count in such meaningful ways. It is a very gentle, loving community, that will also stretch and expand you into the version you've been waiting for to become. Every women in the Whole Loaf Community is rising to new standards. 

 

Does this sound like the community you want to be part of?

A

Yes, whole heartedly

B

Mostly yes, and I have some questions

C

Not so much

Question 2 of 10

The Investment into you and your future

Founding membership in The Whole Loaf Community is $47 a month or $470 a year (two months free).

Your rate is locked in for as long as you stay. When founding enrollment closes after 40 members, the price rises for everyone who comes after you, but it will stay the same for you forever. That's my way of saying: "thank you for trusting me, you, and co-creating this room with me."

What might be happening inside of you right now: You’d spend this on a friend in your situation without blinking. It only becomes "too much" when it's for you. Right? I totally get it, and that exact hesitation isn't a reason to close this page, but it's the reason showing you in real time exactly why you belong here.

"I came into this not sure whether I truly am a people pleaser, but it didn't matter. What Steffi offered went far beyond labels. She helped me get clear on what my patterns have cost me and will continue to cost me if I don’t change. It helped me wake up and change the trajectory of my life in the most aligned and fulfilling way. This work is for anyone ready to live more consciously and courageously." — Alexandra ".

 

If we're both a 'Yes' after our call, are in a place to make this investment in yourself? 

A

Yes, I'm ready

B

Yes, and the annual option interests me

C

I'd like to talk it through on the call

D

Not right now

Question 3 of 10

"Even after just the first session I already felt more confident in knowing and setting my boundaries with my sister, and then actually holding them. This is such a big step for me! - Livia

 

 

Where are you currently at with the tendency of 'settling for the breadcrumbs' (aka people pleasing)? 

(Why I ask: the community meets you where you are, and I want to make sure it's the right support for this chapter of your life.)

 

A

I'm just starting to see how much of my life I've spent accepting the breadcrumbs

B

I've known for a while and I've tried to change it, but I keep slipping back

C

I've done a lot of work already and I'm ready to go deeper, into the roots of it

D

I'm mostly free of it and I want to build the life that's waiting on the other side

E

Something else (tell me in the last question)

Question 4 of 10

What does settling for the breadcrumbs and people pleasing cost you the most right now? Check any that fit.

(Why I ask: not to judge you. This is so important for me to know so I can see which exercises, learnings, and parts of the journey will matter most for you.)

(Select all that apply)
A

I say yes while my whole body is saying no

B

I regret all the things I have shared responding to an inappropriate question that can be held against me

C

I know everyone else's needs better than my own

D

I replay conversations wondering what I did wrong, a lot!

E

I'm the strong one everyone leans on, and nobody asks how I'm actually doing

F

I can lead a team or run a business, but asking for something for myself feels impossible

G

I don't believe that people would want to help me or be there for me when I need them, when I'm weak

H

Rest, vacation, fun feels like something I have to earn

I

I keep choosing people who take more than they give

J

I recognize what's unhealthy, but I can't seem to act on it

K

I don't know what I actually want anymore

Question 5 of 10

What made you apply and why now? 

Share as much or as little as feels right. A sentence is enough, and so is an entire paragraph. 

 

Question 6 of 10

Imagine it's a year from now and joining the Whole Loaf Community turned out to be one of the best decisions you've made for yourself What's different in your life?  

Question 7 of 10

You're so used to being the one who gives endlessly and generously. So here's a question you might not be used to: What do you want to receive here?

If you let this community actually hold you, what would that look like? and yes, "I don't know" is a powerful place to start. 

Question 8 of 10

Anything else you want me to know?

This is your space to say anything that's present for you. All is welcome, well received, and meaningful.

Question 9 of 10

What timezone are you in?

Question 10 of 10

To confirm privacy policies, please read: https://www.steffiseefeld.com/privacy-policy

(Select all that apply)
A

I understand that my answers go to Steffi only, are stored in her private systems, and are never shared.

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