YOUR GUT IS WHAT BROUGHT YOU HERE. THAT'S NOT NOTHING, THAT'S ACTUALLY THE WHOLE POINT.
Your result: YELLOW
Yellow doesn't mean you're fine. Yellow means the there are patterns in your relationship that show up often enough for your body to notice them, and not in a comfortable way. That's why you spent all that time taking this assessment instead of scrolling past it.
Before you talk yourself out of what you just read, watch this 90 seconds message for you.
It will save you from the most expensive mistake women in your tier make.
The single thing I wish someone had said to me when I was where you are right now.
What your YELLOW result actually means
Yellow means the patterns are present, but they haven't fully taken over yet, or they have, and you've just gotten very, very good at not noticing. Both happen. The assessment can't tell the difference, but you can, if you're honest with yourself for the next sixty seconds.
Yellow is not a green light. Yellow is the part of the road where you slow down because something up ahead doesn't look right. Most women I work with, including the ones who later moved into Red, spent years in Yellow first, dismissing it. "He's not that bad all he time", "She has good qualities.", "Other people have it worse. I'm just being dramatic."
The reason Yellow is so dangerous is because it's so reasonable to dismiss. The patterns in a Yellow result are subtle enough to argue with, but cumulative enough to slowly rearrange who you are. Long enough in Yellow is not a considered a milder version of Red. You're heading straight into it
You're probably running one of these arguments right now:
"It's not every day." True, almost no one's relationship is bad every day. The math of these patterns is not about frequency. It's about whether the bad moments require you to abandon yourself to recover from them.
"They have a lot of good qualities." Also true. Healthy partners have good qualities too. The difference is that healthy partners' good qualities are not a tool you use to talk yourself out of how you actually feel.
"I might be projecting because of my past." You might be. You also might be picking up on something real for the first time and reaching for any explanation except that one. The masterclass walks through how to tell the difference.
"It's not as bad as what other women go through." No one wins this comparison. Saying "others have it worse" is the sentence that kept me in mine for way too long. It is, statistically, the single most common sentence a woman says before she finally gets out.
Here's what I have to be direct about, because nobody else will:
The women in my course who later told me their lives were saved by it, the ones who got out, who got their nervous systems back, who got to a version of their lives they didn't recognize as possible from where they're standing right now, almost none of them started in Red.
They started in Yellow. They almost dismissed it. Some of them did dismiss it for a while, and then came back later.
This is actual demographic data of who comes through this work. If you're in Yellow and you take the next 45 minutes to come to the free masterclass, you are doing the single highest-leverage thing a person in your tier can do. Not because the class is magic. Because the women who attend it stop dismissing.
THE NEXT 60 MINUTES ARE HOW YOU STOP DISMISSING THIS:
Why You Keep ATTRACTING NARCISSISTS?
(And the 3 Pillars to Break the Pattern)
It is a free 60-minute MASTERCLASS I built for the woman feels something is off but cannot quite say what it is, and she needs language before she can decide what to do with any of it.
You will walk away with three things:
- a clearer view of which specific patterns are showing up in your relationship,
- a real understanding of what they are doing inside your body,
- and the first one to stop doing this week.
This is not about "leave him today." This is for you, to gain clarity, feel understood, and to give your nervous system a long overdue reset.
Here is exactly what we cover, in the order I teach it:
- Pillar 1: Naming. The six core patterns this assessment screened you on. Most women who get the yellow results have at least 3 of those patterns active in their relationship without realizing they have names. You will learn to spot them in a single sentence each by the end of this pillar.
- Pillar 2: Understanding. What these patterns are physically and emotionally doing to your sleep, your memory, your sense of who you are, your capacity to make a clear-eyed decision about anything bigger than dinner (if even). This is the section where most women with yellow-result say "I genuinely thought it was just me being tired."
- Pillar 3: Deciding. Not "should I leave." Earlier than that:"What is actually happening, and what would a clear-eyed version of me do this week?" The class ends with the single most leveraged thing a woman with the yellow result can do in the next seven days. It is not what you think it is. It is also a great deal easier than what you think it is.
- BONUS: At the end I will bust one of the myths that keep empathetic women like you stuck with narcissists! THIS alone will be worth joining. This was they key moment that changed my life and I can't wait to see how it changes yours.
I almost didn't come. I told myself I would be wasting a seat that SHOULD GO to someone whose situation was 'WORSE' By minute thirty I was sobbing on my couch, because I WAS THAT SOMEONE whose situation was worse. I just hadn't let myself see it yet."
KRISTEN, 32 - ENTREPRENEUR
I went in thinking Yellow meant I was OVERREACTING. I came out understanding I had been UNDERREACTING for four years.
LIVIA, 24 - SOCIAL MEDIA MANAGER
My favorite thing about the class was that Steffi never once pushed me (or anyone) to leave him. She just gave us the language. The leaving came six months later for me, ON MY OWN CLOCK. The language is what made it possible.
ALEX, 59 - AUTHOR
You took the assessment because something in YOU ALREADY KNEW. Spend the next 60 minutes finding out what.
Free. 60 minutes. No replay guaranteed.
Built and taught by STEFFI SEEFELD
Certified transformational somatic coach.
I had the narcissistic romantic partner. The boss. The friend. The family member. I know what it's like to feel crazy when you're the one who cares too much. Most of the years that I spent in narcissistic relationships I have been a solid "Yellow result", talking myself out of it on a Tuesday and back into it on a Friday. The last few years were Red. This page exists because nobody made the Yellow one I needed.
Your assessment responses are private and never shared. This page is an educational tool, not a clinical diagnosis. If you are in immediate physical danger, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (US), text "START" to 88788, or your local equivalent.
