Eighteen things they did to you that finally have names
Waking Up: The 2 Core Pattern Sampler, by Steffi Seefeld
Narcissistic behavior isn't random and it isn't personal. Narcissists are nothing but patterns. Every narcissistic person runs on the same six core patterns, and inside each pattern are the specific tactics.
This sampler opens up the two patterns that end the most confusion, so you can name what you lived through and stop feeling crazy.
SHOW ME THE 2 CORE PATTERNS FOR $37
I teach this because I lived it.
I stayed in relationships with narcissistic people for way too long, and the thing that kept me there wasn't stupidity. It was that every cold stretch was followed by warmth, and I kept reading the warmth as proof for me to stay. The day I could see the real pattern running underneath every action they took, my confusion and hope stopped. I stopped asking what I had done wrong and started asking a much better question.
Since then I've walked thousands of women through this work, and I've taught, facilitated and spoken for Summit, Kajabi, YPO, EO, The Portal and Deloitte.
If you've done my 7 Myths course, you already know how I teach. These two modules come from the same live class, and they answer the question the myths leave open: now that I know the beliefs that kept me blind and stuck, what exactly are their patterns?
Summit • Kajabi • YPO • EO • The Portal • Deloitte
By the end of these two patterns you'll
...and feel it in your body, not only understand it in your mind.
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Core Pattern: Only If It's Convenient or Benefiting Me
Why the warmth always arrived right before they needed something.
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- I'm Superior, So the Rules Don't Apply to Me
- Convenience First: Two Birds, One Stone
- The Relationship Benefits, Without the Responsibilities
- Twisting the Plot: Reality Is Flexible
- Keeping Score: Inflating Their Contributions, Minimizing Yours
- Emotional Regulation Through Others
- Relationship as Supply, Not Intimacy
- Gifts and Surprises as Tools
- Reputation Is King
- Smear Campaign and Revenge Seeking Plus: Time to Reflect
Core Pattern: No Empathy
The hardest one for an empathetic woman to accept, and the one that finally explains why it was always a competition and your love never came back to you.
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- No Room for You(r Needs and Desires)
- Survival Mode Disguised as Superiority
- They Underestimate the Harm and Overestimate Their Empathy
- Emotional Competition
- Deflective. Invalidating. Dismissive. Condescending.
- The Next Shoe Always Drops
- No Genuine Guilt or Remorse
- Performative Empathy Plus: Time to Reflect
Also inside: a Welcome and How-To lesson, every lesson available in video or audio, and lifetime access. Recorded live, with women like you in the room.
These are the two of the six core patterns that answer the question keeping you up at night.
What's included:
- 2 of the 6 core patterns, taught the way I teach them in my live class
- 18 named tactics, one short lesson each, so you can go straight to the one that happened to you last week
- 22 lessons in total, about 65 minutes all together, each in video and audio
- A Time to Reflect lesson at the end of each pattern, to make it your waking-up-moment
- Lifetime access
What women say after doing this work with me
I appreciate your framing because it's not about labelling and wronging but it's really bringing the focus to the impact on me, and if this is how I want to be treated and feel.
Oh my God, I am blown away. I feel like you were telling my story. Thank you, you have already made a difference in my life.
This is the reassurance that it's not in your head. It made me think about more stories, more events that supported the fact that my relationship was not healthy. I'm starting to see patterns in my life and back to my childhood, the full circle of where I was, where I got to, and where I'd like to be after this.
This is for you if:
- ✓ You're tired of going back and forth about whether it was or is really that bad, if a warm week undoes months of clarity, or if the narcissistic person is a parent, a sibling, a friend or a boss and leaving isn't simple, because the patterns are the same in every dynamic.
This is not for you if:
You're still in physical danger. Your safety comes first, and this course is not the first step. Please reach out to a domestic violence resource where you are before anything else.
Once you can see a pattern, you feel empowered.
These are two of the six, and eighteen of the moments you've been replaying over and over. Once you learn the names of these tactics, they stop running you, and they stop empowering you.
$37
They're yours for life.
SHOW ME THE 2 CORE PATTERNS FOR $37If you are in immediate danger, this course is not an emergency resource. Please contact a domestic violence support line in your country. In the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-799-7233.
