Where the women who put everyone else first come home to themselves.
Learn the patterns, heal the parts who settled for it, and build a life you love, side by side with the women who get it.
A free video lesson + somatic practice, instant access. No card, no spam.
Trusted in rooms that don't suffer fluff.
Steffi has taught, facilitated, and spoken for:
Summit · Kajabi · YPO · EO · The Portal · Deloitte
You can name every red flag but you're still not free.
That's not an information problem.
The pattern that keeps you saying yes while your body says no doesn't live in your mind. You most likely know everything you need to know to change it. But this pattern lives in your nervous system, trained there by a version of love that needed you to regulate others' emotions, a love that had to be earned through giving more and needing less.
That's why understanding hasn't healed it yet for you, and why my work is body first: somatic practices, nervous system regulation, and the inner work, the shadow work, where all of your parts are held with compassion and zero shame.
I'm Steffi Seefeld, a trauma-informed somatic coach. I've walked this road myself, the hard way, and I've now walked it with over 1,200 women. One thing I know for certain: none of it is your fault, and all of it is your opportunity to break the cycle and finally change, when you're ready for it.
The Work Has Shape.
The Liberation Journey
01Know their patterns.
Study what happened until "am I crazy?" becomes "I know exactly what this was." Yes, learning their narcissistic patterns takes up a lot of your energy for a while. That's not obsession, that's the medicine you need. Because what it gives you: confidence, safety, protection, and the beginning of self-trust.
02Know your patterns.
When you are ready, you get to ask yourself the braver question: which part of me believed the breadcrumbs were the best I could get? Now we meet those younger parts who are still in the driver's seat with compassion, not shame, and become the parent we needed. What it gives you: liberation from codependency and a completely new way of living and loving.
03Create a new life.
The blank canvas almost nobody talks about: who do I want to be, and what does a life I love actually look like? You stop abandoning yourself, and life starts matching the woman you're becoming. What it gives you: a life you are in love with.
Underneath all three: your nervous system, expanding its capacity for grief, rage, and, sometimes hardest of all, the joy. One step at a time, one breath at a time, together.
Start free, or step in deeper. Every door is here for you.
START FREE
The free myth video.
One belief, the hope that you'll be the exception, loosened in one short video with a somatic practice included.
Done Surviving.
My free live 90-minute masterclass, next on August 8. Somatic, interactive. Replay for 72 hours.
GO DEEPER
NOT YOUR FAULT. NOT YOUR FUTURE.
The most comprehensive course I wish I had on healing from narcissistic relationships. Somatic practices woven throughout the 80 lessons, 1 to 5 minutes each, finally connecting the dots between your experience and their strategic patterns.
"All I can say is WOW. This is so eye-opening. Thank you." — Brenda S.
THE WHOLE LOAF
Monthly live calls with me and women who are so f*cking done with settling for the breadcrumbs, who truly get you. Member spaces for support and celebration between the calls, and women who become sisters for a lifetime. $47/month.
"I never want these calls to end, they are my favorite part of the month. I love you all." — Kathleen F.
RISING WOMEN PROGRAM
Six months of profound transformation, from stuck in your patterns into freedom and actual change, within you and all around you. The most time with me of anything I offer, in a small circle, by application only. This is also where 1-on-1 lives.
"It wasn't just mindset coaching, it was nervous system work, it was somatic healing... real, feel-it-in-your-body healing." — Liv M.
1-DAY RETREATS
One day immersed in the redwood trees by the ocean. Themes vary between the most common ones: rage, grief, joy. We breathe together, move together, cook together, hold each other and elevate each other. By application only.
"What surprised me the most was the relief I felt after the rage exercise. I didn't realize how much I had suppressed and how much lighter I feel now." — Katie A.
1-ON-1 COACHING
Bespoke, limited, and retainer-only. For situations that are intricate, layered, or simply ask for focussed intention and pacing only one-on-one work can provide.
For the woman who knows what's happening but can't get out of it alone without drowning; the dynamic with a romantic partner, parent, sibling, or business partner, or dating the same "type". She needs full attention to get to the core of it and out of it, healthily.
Some of the healing happens alone, but it doesn't have to be lonely.
You deserve the whole f*cking loaf.
You've spent years settling for the bread crumb in love, at work, with your family, in your whole life. For as long as you can remember you kept the hope of "someday they will consider my needs and wishes, too," and it slowly but surely exhausted you. This community is named for the end of that. Inside: monthly live calls with me, practices and tools you can apply immediately, member spaces where the 11pm "am I crazy" posts get answered by women who know, and friendships with people you never have to explain yourself to.
$47 per month, or $470 per year.
By application, to keep this room safe, compassionate, and what it is.
Cancel anytime, no guilt trip (you've had enough of those in your life).
APPLY TO JOINYou came in surviving. You'll leave SOVEREIGN.
Picture an ordinary Tuesday, some months from now. You wake up with no alarm, and the first thing you notice is what's missing: the knot.
There's no replay of last night running and no bracing for a mood. You make coffee in a quiet kitchen, and the quiet doesn't feel like dread. It feels peaceful.
That moment is not a fantasy. That's your nervous system that has been allowed to recover and come home.
Trusting your gut without three days of second-guessing it.
Setting a boundary without guilt, and without explaining it five different ways.
Recognizing real care in your body — and recognizing instantly when something isn't that.
"You are a FUCKING CATCH. The fact that you forget that, is not your fault, but it's your responsibility to not let that happen again."
Let's take a breath together, drop your shoulders drop, relax the tiny muscles around your eyes. This can be a lot to read and feel through. We don't move faster than your nervous system can hold.
In their own WORDS
This is a GAME CHANGER aka Life Changer! Thank You!
LIVIA
I thought I would work on my relationships, but wow — MY WHOLE LIFE CHANGED for the better.
Dr. YVONNE
The work with Steffi has CHANGED MY LIFE. I no longer allow the same behaviors, and I have comfort and confidence in my DISCERNMENT.
LORENA
I am blown away!!! I feel like you were telling MY STORY. Thank you, you made such a DIFFERENCE in my life.
NICOLE
This was ALWAYS BIGGER than just YOU.
experience narcissistic abuse in her life, most suffer in silence.
are impacted in her sphere when one woman heals and rises.
will her daughter accept toxic love, when the pattern breaks with her.
I won't tell you this was supposed to happen to you. But I'll tell you what I came to believe about my own: the woman who walks all the way through this doesn't just survive it, she becomes a cycle-breaker for a whole lineage. That is so much bigger than her marriage and bigger than this chapter right now.
I believe we choose our parents to get the lessons our family needs, our children need, the world needs right now to be more conscious, more loving, more discerning. Not naïve and definitely not endlessly forgiving. But: Discerning.
Our daughters are watching. Our nieces are watching. The next generation is learning what love looks like from us.
What if this was always yours to heal. And the world is desperate for more empathetic, healed, no-bullshit women who heal and rise up, knowing the difference between love and pleasing.
