Your mind knows. You could list every incident. And still your chest tightens when you see their car, you shake when you hear the voice, and at night the replay starts and keeps you up again.
Whether you're still in it, already out, or tied to them for life through your children or your family, this bundle holds everything I teach about every pattern a narcissistic person runs on and about the empathetic woman who stayed, in five courses with the somatic practices that finally make the change for you in your body and nervous system.
This isn't about diagnosing them. It's about what it's doing to you, and how you want to be treated and feel.
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"I have done so many masterclasses and certificates and Steffi is the real deal. She actually cares so much about who is on the other side." — Molly
This bundle will help you...
...and feel every piece of it land in your body, not only in your mind.
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The Five Courses
01 | Coming Home
The practices that teach your body what your mind already knows.
Ten practices. This is the course almost every other program skips, and it's the reason this work is so successful: breath work, grounding, nervous system regulation, movement, the body scan, the check in that asks what do I need right now instead of what's wrong with me, the shake out, Physiological Sigh, and the Humming Box for the nights the replay seems impossible to stop.
It works for a simple reason: you can't follow a train of thought while you're humming.
Start here, and keep coming back while you move through the other courses.
02 | Waking Up
The framework that makes narcissistic patterns impossible to miss, so you stop doubting what you feel.
Narcissistic behavior isn't random and it isn't moody. It runs on six core patterns, and once you can see them, your confusion finally lifts. This isn't about labels or blame. The question slowly changes from "what are they?" to "what is this doing to me, and is this how I want to be treated?"
- 1. Consistently Inconsistent: the hot and cold that kept your nervous system on high alert, and why it's more addictive than steady cruelty.
- 2. A Calculated Mind, Always in Control: the watching and the data collecting underneath the charm.
- 3. Only If It's Convenient or Benefiting Me: why the warmth always arrived right before they needed something.
- 4. No Empathy: why your love could never fill what isn't there.
- 5. No Accountability, No Repair: why you walked in with a valid concern and walked out as the accused one, still scared.
- 6. No Sense of Boundaries: not that they don't respect yours, there is no sense of them, and how to hold yours anyway.
✦ If you did the 2 Pattern Sampler, 2 of these are already yours.
"I appreciate your framing because it's not about labelling and wronging but it's really bringing the focus to the impact on me, and if this is how I want to be treated and feel." — Corinne
03 | Never Again
The 5 types of narcissism, so it never happens again, with a partner, a boss or the next charming stranger.
After the first one I was sure I'd never fall for it again. I could smell them from a mile away, I thought. And it happened again, because the second one was so different that I didn't see it coming.
So many women in my classes went from a narcissistic parent to a narcissistic partner for the same reason: the pattern stays the same while the way they present themselves changes completely.
The Grandiose, the Vulnerable, the Malignant, the Communal or Spiritual, and the Self-Righteous one. You'll know which one you were with, which one your mother or father was, your boss, your sister, and you'll recognize the next one before it costs you years.
04 | Myth Buster
The 7 myths that kept you stuck from the inside of your unconscious beliefs.
Your mind knows the truth. It is your heart that still hopes it was all a big misunderstanding, that enough love would change them, that one day they'll finally understand.
That split isn't stupidity. It's what these seven beliefs do to the loving, intelligent woman who stayed, went back and kept begging to be seen.
They were born this way. But they're so passionate and driven. They wouldn't do that to me. What if they change after I leave. Once they understand, it will click. They're a good person underneath it all. They're doing better than I am.
✦ Already yours, here in full context.
05 | Bonus Sessions
The answers to the questions you didn't know you had or needed.
These are ten extra conversations that came up during the live class. They were so valuable, they deserved their own course for you.
- 1 Asshole vs. Narcissist: the distinction that sets you free
- 2 Nobody Is That Important
- 3 Avoidant vs. Narcissistic: how to tell which one you're dealing with
- 4 Why You Can't Remember the Bad, and what to do about it
- 5 Emotional Abuse vs. Narcissistic Emotional Abuse: the critical distinction
- 6 Re-Learning What You Actually Want
- 7 My Standards for Relationships, and why you get to have yours
- 8 Important: Do NOT Tell Them
- 9 Grief Awareness: what you're actually mourning
- 10 The Whole Loaf Community: for the brave and strong ones (you!)
Plus: The Workbook
Finally, It Makes Sense.
This makes it your wholesome story of healing and rising. Your Liberation Journey starts inside these pages.
108 pages, printable and made for you to write in it, following every course of this bundle with the questions that turn consuming into the real tangible liberation for you.
You don't have an information problem. You have an integration problem.
It's the night after one of the best workshops of my life. I had asked my partner at the time not to come, because I wanted to be in my own clean energy in that room. He calls. I text back that I'm working and we'll talk in the morning. A clear boundary, held twice.
Then my phone lights up: "Well, who is considering me now? And very clear where your priorities are. You can't ask for something you don't give. That is not fair."
I know exactly what this is. I could name the tactic while it's still on my screen. And my chest is already tight, and I'm already calling him. I listen, I explain, and the next morning I walk into his house in my bathrobe, because I can't wait to make it right.
My mind knew. My body went anyway.
That's not a character flaw, and it's not only mine.
Your mind already recognizes the pattern too. But a nervous system that learned to read disconnection as danger and reconnection as oxygen falls back into the familiar cycle, and it gets retrained the way it got trained: through the body, one repetition at a time. That's what the practices in this bundle do.
And if you went back, maybe more than once, you didn't betray yourself. Your body went where it had learned love lives.
If your chest tightened reading that, pause. Breathe in, and make the exhale longer than the inhale.
You don't have to take all of this in.
Tonight, do one thing: open COMING HOME, press play on the Humming Box, and hum with me for three minutes. That's a complete first step, and your body counts it. Tomorrow, move on to WAKING UP.
What's Inside:
Plus my 30 day results guarantee.
Public price: $697
Your price: $247
One payment, lifetime access.
One private hour with me starts at $250. This bundle holds 6+ hours of my teaching, and you can come back to every minute of it for the rest of your life.
What women say after doing this work with me
In their own words, shared with permission.
This has helped me to become clear on what I really want, and instead of learning the labels, it gave the peace and strength to accept this, it also lifted the shame I was having about staying or not seeing it for so long.
I was doing a lot of inner work already, reading, journaling, meditation, but I was still stuck in the same patterns, like they were engrained in my nervous system. Working with Steffi shifted everything because it went beyond understanding into something I could actually feel in my body. It's like a spiritual gym. I don't even fully know how to explain it, but it works.
This is the reassurance that it's not in your head. It made me think about more stories, more events that supported the fact that my relationship was not healthy. I'm starting to see patterns in my life and back to my childhood, the full circle of where I was, where I got to, and where I'd like to be after this.
I finally, finally, finally trust my voice, my boundaries, and what I want to call into my life. This work is transformational for anyone who's ready.
Working with Steffi completely opened my eyes, because it wasn't just someone telling me to 'just leave.' She helped me actually understand why I was stuck. It wasn't just mindset coaching, it was nervous system work, it was somatic healing, it was feel-it-in-your-body healing. Now I feel so much more grounded and confident. I'm way better at setting boundaries without feeling guilty after. I don't default to people-pleasing to keep the peace anymore. I actually feel protective over myself, and that's a really good thing.
I finally let go of my people pleaser, what a big relief and shift in everything: the relationships at work and with my partner. Working with Steffi really made me believe in myself for the first time.
My 30-Day Results Guarantee.
I want this to land for you, in your body.
If you really give it a try, you watch the lessons of each course, do the practices with me and not just open the workbook, but use the prompts and exercises. If within 30 days of your purchase nothing resonates, email me at [email protected] and you get your money back without any interrogation, shame, or hoops. I'd rather you feel safe saying yes than talk yourself out of the thing that could finally give you your life back.
Is this you?
This is for you if:
- ✓ You know it in your head, and your body still hasn't gotten the message.
- ✓ You're not even sure it was abuse, and you're tired of arguing both sides in your mind.
- ✓ You're still in it, and you want to see clearly before you decide anything.
- ✓ You left, maybe years ago, and you're still stuck in the replay, the grief or the same type of person.
- ✓ You share children, a family or a workplace with them, so walking away completely isn't an option.
- ✓ You were married for decades and you're wondering if it's too late for you. It isn't.
- ✓ You've done the reading, maybe the therapy, maybe my Myth Buster course, and you can feel that the missing piece isn't more information.
This is not for you if:
- — You want me to tell you they'll change if you just love them differently. I won't, because it isn't true, and that hope is one of the seven myths.
- — You're looking for a way to expose them, win in court or make them finally see it. This work is about you and how you are getting your life back.
You're in physical danger right now. Your safety comes first. Please reach out to a domestic violence resource in your area before anything else, and come back to this whenever you're ready
Honest answers to what you are asking yourself
Do I have to go through all of it in order?
Will this tell me whether to leave?
What if it isn't a partner, or I can't cut contact?
What if I left years ago and I'm still stuck?
What if I'm not sure it was narcissism?
Is it too late for me?
I'm exhausted. How will I get through all of this?
What if I cry the whole way through?
Is this therapy?
I already bought Myth Buster or the 2 Pattern Sampler. Do I pay twice?
ONE MORE THING
You came to this page for a reason.
Maybe a reel on Insta made your stomach drop. Maybe you typed something into Google at 2am you didn't want anyone to see. However you got here, what brought you here is your nervous system, your compass, which has been trying to tell you something for a long time, and you're finally listening.
This course is the language for what it's been saying.
You are not crazy. You are not too much. You are not the problem.
You are a woman whose body has been holding too much for too long, and you don't have to keep holding it alone.
Take a deep breath. Exhale, slower.
And when you're ready, I'll see you inside.
Steffi
If you are in immediate danger, this course is not an emergency resource. Please contact a domestic violence support line in your country. In the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-799-7233.
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