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"Oh my God, I am blown away. I feel like you were telling my story."
Nicole H.
Your mind knows. You could list every incident. And still your chest tightens when you see their car, you shake when you hear the voice, and at night the replay starts and keeps you up again.
Whether you're still in it, already out, or tied to them for life through your children or your family, this bundle holds everything I teach about every pattern a narcissistic person runs on and about the empathetic woman who stayed, in five courses with the somatic practices that finally make the change for you in your body and nervous system.
This isn't about diagnosing them. It's about what it's doing to you, and how you want to be treated and feel.
For years I led workshops around the world on compassion and human connection, and for the same years I was in an abusive relationship with a narcissistic man.
I buried myself in shame: “How did I, the expert in conscious relationships, not see this?” I didn't miss the signs because I wasn't smart enough. I missed the signs because my nervous system was programmed to read guilt-tripping, walking on eggshells, and abandoning my needs as love, and a body doesn't unlearn that programming by reading one more book.
When I finally left, for good this time, I studied narcissism like it was my PhD, cried more than I want to admit, and regulated my nervous system to new levels of safety so that the knowledge could actually land in my body. That's the work in this bundle that other courses miss.
If you've done Myth Buster or the 2 Pattern Sampler with me, you already know how I teach. Those lessons are inside this bundle in their proper place, and everything else here is new to you.
I've been a somatic coach for nearly two decades, I've walked more than 1,200 women through this work in workshops and programs, and I've taught, facilitated and spoken for Summit, Kajabi, YPO, EO, The Portal and Deloitte.
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"I have done so many masterclasses and certificates and Steffi is the real deal. She actually cares so much about who is on the other side." — Molly
This bundle will help you...
...and feel every piece of it land in your body, not only in your mind.
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MODULE 01
The 6 Core Patterns
Not the personalities, not the labels of the person(s) you have in mind, but the patterns.
Because narcissistic people are 100 out of 100 times patterns. And once you can see them, you stop wondering if it was you.
Core Pattern #1: Consistently Inconsistent. The hot-and-cold that locked your nervous system into hypervigilance, and why intermittent reinforcement is more addictive than consistent cruelty. There is nothing consistent about a narcissistic person other than being inconsistent, and that is what makes it crazy-making.
Core Pattern #2: A Calculated Mind, Always in Control. What looks like spontaneity or charm and is calculation underneath. They are collecting data. They watch your reactions more than they listen to your words, and they store it to use later.
Core Pattern #3: Only If It Is Convenient or Benefitting Me. Why their care and effort always ran on an agenda. Gifts as deposits into an invisible account they can withdraw from later.
Core Pattern #4: No Empathy. The hardest one for an empathetic woman to accept. Why your love cannot fill what is not there, and why staying is not compassion, it is enabling.
Core Pattern #5: No Accountability. No Repair. Why the conversation that would heal it will never happen. DARVO, word salad, and the reason you walk into a conversation with a valid concern and walk out as the accused one while they leave as the victim.
Core Pattern #6: No Sense of Boundaries. Not that they do not respect boundaries. There is no sense of them. And how to set yours anyway, without flinching, over-explaining, or collapsing into guilt.
A taste of the actual lessons inside this module:
The Hot-Cold Dynamic Punishing You for Changing Your Mind From Lovebombing to Inconvenience The Breadcrumbs Hoovering Future Faking Gaslighting Guilt-Tripping Projection Using Your Vulnerability Against You Small Putdowns Selective Rewards & Conditional Love Twisting the Plot: Reality Is Flexible “Keeping Score” Word Salads DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim & Offender The Kombucha Bottle of Insecurity and Shame Stop Ruminating: The Humming Box Practice
If you just felt your stomach drop reading three of those, that's not a coincidence, it's recognition.
The piece almost every other course skips. The piece that is this course.
Ten somatic practices, taught and led in real time, placed exactly where you will need them. Before the heavy material. After the grief. In the middle of the recognition that takes your breath.
Breath Grounding Nervous System Regulation Movement Body Scan
The check-in that asks what do I need right now instead of what is wrong with me. The shake-out. The Humming Box, for the nights the ruminating will not stop, and the reason that one works is simple: you cannot follow a train of thought while you are humming.
These are not like a "side dish. They are the architecture and the reason this course produces a different result than the eleven books on your nightstand, because the books spoke to your mind, and your mind was never the problem.
You'll feel the difference in your chest, your jaw, your sleep, your shoulders, your sleep.
Because the body is where it lived, and the body is where it heals.
You don't have an information problem. You have an integration problem.
It's the night after one of the best workshops of my life. I had asked my partner at the time not to come, because I wanted to be in my own clean energy in that room. He calls. I text back that I'm working and we'll talk in the morning. A clear boundary, held twice.
Then my phone lights up: "Well, who is considering me now? And very clear where your priorities are. You can't ask for something you don't give. That is not fair."
I know exactly what this is. I could name the tactic while it's still on my screen. And my chest is already tight, and I'm already calling him. I listen, I explain, and the next morning I walk into his house in my bathrobe, because I can't wait to make it right.
My mind knew. My body went anyway.
That's not a character flaw, and it's not only mine.
Your mind already recognizes the pattern too. But a nervous system that learned to read disconnection as danger and reconnection as oxygen falls back into the familiar cycle, and it gets retrained the way it got trained: through the body, one repetition at a time. That's what the practices in this bundle do.
And if you went back, maybe more than once, you didn't betray yourself. Your body went where it had learned love lives.
If your chest tightened reading that, pause. Breathe in, and make the exhale longer than the inhale.
You don't have to take all of this in.
Tonight, do one thing: open COMING HOME, press play on the Humming Box, and hum with me for three minutes. That's a complete first step, and your body counts it. Tomorrow, move on to WAKING UP.
What's Inside:
Coming Home: 10 somatic practices, taught and led in real time
Waking Up: the 6 core patterns
Never Again: the 5 types
Myth Buster: the 7 myths
10 Bonus Sessions: from the live class
The 108 Page Workbook: Finally, It Makes Sense
96 Lessons: Over 6 hours in total, every one in video and audio, so you can sit with it or take it on a walk
Lifetime Access: to all 5 courses and workbook
My 30 day guarantee
Your price: $697
One payment, lifetime access.
One private hour with me starts at $250. This bundle holds 6+ hours of my teaching, and you can come back to every minute of it for the rest of your life.
What women say after doing this work with me
In their own words, shared with permission.
This has helped me to become clear on what I really want, and instead of learning the labels, it gave the peace and strength to accept this, it also lifted the shame I was having about staying or not seeing it for so long.
— Amy
Course participant
I was doing a lot of inner work already, reading, journaling, meditation, but I was still stuck in the same patterns, like they were engrained in my nervous system. Working with Steffi shifted everything because it went beyond understanding into something I could actually feel in my body. It's like a spiritual gym. I don't even fully know how to explain it, but it works.
— Alex G.
Course participant
This is the reassurance that it's not in your head. It made me think about more stories, more events that supported the fact that my relationship was not healthy. I'm starting to see patterns in my life and back to my childhood, the full circle of where I was, where I got to, and where I'd like to be after this.
— Emma J.
Course participant
I finally, finally, finally trust my voice, my boundaries, and what I want to call into my life. This work is transformational for anyone who's ready.
— Katie F.
Course participant
Working with Steffi completely opened my eyes, because it wasn't just someone telling me to 'just leave.' She helped me actually understand why I was stuck. It wasn't just mindset coaching, it was nervous system work, it was somatic healing, it was feel-it-in-your-body healing. Now I feel so much more grounded and confident. I'm way better at setting boundaries without feeling guilty after. I don't default to people-pleasing to keep the peace anymore. I actually feel protective over myself, and that's a really good thing.
— Liv M.
Course participant
I finally let go of my people pleaser, what a big relief and shift in everything: the relationships at work and with my partner. Working with Steffi really made me believe in myself for the first time.
— Dr. Yvonne L.
Course participant
My 30-Day Results Guarantee.
I want this to land for you, in your body.
If you really give it a try, you watch the lessons of each course, do the practices with me and not just open the workbook, but use the prompts and exercises. If within 30 days of your purchase nothing resonates, email me at [email protected] and you get your money back without any interrogation, shame, or hoops. I'd rather you feel safe saying yes than talk yourself out of the thing that could finally give you your life back.
Is this you?
This is for you if:
- ✓ You know it in your head, and your body still hasn't gotten the message.
- ✓ You're not even sure it was abuse, and you're tired of arguing both sides in your mind.
- ✓ You're still in it, and you want to see clearly before you decide anything.
- ✓ You left, maybe years ago, and you're still stuck in the replay, the grief or the same type of person.
- ✓ You share children, a family or a workplace with them, so walking away completely isn't an option.
- ✓ You were married for decades and you're wondering if it's too late for you. It isn't.
- ✓ You've done the reading, maybe the therapy, maybe my Myth Buster course, and you can feel that the missing piece isn't more information.
This is not for you if:
- — You want me to tell you they'll change if you just love them differently. I won't, because it isn't true, and that hope is one of the seven myths.
- — You're looking for a way to expose them, win in court or make them finally see it. This work is about you and how you are getting your life back.
You're in physical danger right now. Your safety comes first. Please reach out to a domestic violence resource in your area before anything else, and come back to this whenever you're ready
Honest answers to what you are asking yourself
Do I have to go through all of it in order?
Will this tell me whether to leave?
What if it isn't a partner, or I can't cut contact?
What if I left years ago and I'm still stuck?
What if I'm not sure it was narcissism?
Is it too late for me?
I'm exhausted. How will I get through all of this?
What if I cry the whole way through?
Is this therapy?
ONE MORE THING
You came to this page for a reason.
Maybe a reel on Insta made your stomach drop. Maybe you typed something into Google at 2am you didn't want anyone to see. However you got here, what brought you here is your nervous system, your compass, which has been trying to tell you something for a long time, and you're finally listening.
This course is the language for what it's been saying.
You are not crazy. You are not too much. You are not the problem.
You are a woman whose body has been holding too much for too long, and you don't have to keep holding it alone.
Take a deep breath. Exhale, slower.
And when you're ready, I'll see you inside.
Steffi
If you are in immediate danger, this course is not an emergency resource. Please contact a domestic violence support line in your country. In the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-799-7233.
