For the woman who has read everything about narcissism and is still not free.
Not your fault.
Not your future.
The somatic course for high-achieving, deeply empathetic women who are so f*cking done falling for the same person in different packaging.
You already understand what happened to you. This is the course that gets your body to believe it.
→ ENROLL ME — MY $47 MYTH CREDIT IS APPLIED
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"Oh my God, I am blown away. I feel like you were telling my story."
Nicole H.
You're the smartest woman in every room. Except the one where he is.
You can name every red flag in your sleep. Gaslighting, DARVO, love bombing, hoovering, you know all the words now. You researched this the way you've researched every other problem in your life, thoroughly, intelligently, at 2 AM with the brightness turned down.
And you're still here.
- ● Still waking up at 3 AM with cotton-mouth anxiety, replaying a conversation from six months ago, wondering what you could have said differently.
- ● Still flinching when your phone buzzes.
- ● Still apologizing for things you didn't do.
- ● Still asking yourself, in the quietest part of you: Was it really that bad? What if I had been different? Am I the problem?
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If reading that made your chest tighten, pause here for a second. Take a breath. This page isn't going anywhere, and neither am I. That tightness is exactly what we're going to work with.
Here's what nobody told you. The understanding lives in your mind. The stuckness lives in your body. And you cannot read your way out of a place that reading never reached.
Your mind already knows.
Your body hasn't been told yet.
If you came here from the Myth Course, you've already felt what I mean. One belief came loose, and it didn't happen because you learned a new fact. It happened because something shifted underneath the facts. This course is where the rest of you gets to shift.
I'M DONE SURVIVING. ENROLL ME.WHY NOTHING HAS WORKED
You don't have an information problem.
You have an integration problem.
Think about everything you've already tried:
The books told you what was happening, but they didn't get you out of the 3 AM replay.
The Instagram reels you saved named the tactics, but naming a tactic has never once stopped your chest from tightening when his name shows up on your screen.
Therapy helped, maybe. But most therapists are not trained in narcissistic abuse specifically, and the wrong frame can retraumatize you while you're paying (and praying) to heal.
Almost everything offered to women in your position is talk or medication. Almost nobody teaches the somatic piece, and the somatic piece is what actually rewires the pattern.
Because here's the truth your high-achieving brain won't love hearing: you cannot out-think your nervous system. Years of walking on eggshells trained your body to brace, scan, appease, and explain on autopliot. Thats your program and that doesn't dissolve because you understood a reel. That program dissolves when your body gets consistent, repeated, felt-in-real-time proof that the danger is over.
This course teaches your body what your mind already understands.
STEFFI'S STORY
I've been you. The hard way.
Hi, I'm Steffi. I'm a trauma-informed somatic coach. I've trained with Dr. Joe Dispenza, Teal Swan, Gabor Maté, Tony Robbins, and Dan Brulé. I've worked with leaders from YPO, EO, Deloitte, Medtronic, Kajabi, and presidential families. On paper, I look like someone who has it figured out.
Not long ago, I was the woman skipping networking events and friend-dates to obsessively check my phone, hoping the man who'd just screamed at me would text "I love you."
Successful on the outside. Crumbling on the inside.
Cotton-mouth anxiety before every fight. Walking on eggshells to prevent the next blowup. Replaying every conversation, wondering what I could have done right instead of wrong. Apologizing for the way I breathed. Hiding the women's underwear I found in his drawer behind an excuse I invented for him.
And the worst part wasn't any of those moments. It was the loneliness inside the relationship I felt sitting next to "my person" by the beach, during lunch, or out at a show, feeling more alone than I had ever felt in my life.
It took multiple breakdowns, multiple attempts to leave, and a complete nervous system crash before it landed:
This is not love! This is survival.
And finally I was so. f*cking. done. surviving.
So I left, for good this time. I studied narcissism with Dr. Ramani and fellow specialists like it was my PhD. I cried more than I wanted to admit. And I rebuilt my nervous system from the ground up, because the somatic work, the breath, the body, the slow regulation of a system that had been fried for years, was the piece that finally let the understanding land and the grief move through me.
That's the piece nobody had given me. So I built it for myself and the women who need it today.
This course is the most comprehensive training I wish I had when I was where you are. It has now reached over 1,200 women across my workshops, retreats, and programs.
3 Modules: 6 Core Patterns + 5 Types +7 Myths = One nervous system, finally off duty.
Not Your Fault. Not Your Future. is an 80-lesson somatic course, and before that number scares you, hear how it's built:
Every lesson is 1 to 5 minutes long. None longer than the length of a song. Each one comes in video and audio, so you can sit with it when you want stillness or listen on a walk when you can't sit still. It's designed for a nervous system that has already been through enough, in small bites that fit inside your day instead of becoming one more thing you're failing to finish.
Inside those lessons live three frameworks:
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The 6 Core Patterns of Narcissistic People. So you can see what was actually happening, with language so precise the fog doesn't survive it.
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The 5 Types of Narcissism. So you recognize the pattern in any packaging: the loud one, the victim, the guru, and stop missing it because "he wasn't like the last one."
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The 7 Myths That Kept You Stuck. The beliefs that held the door shut from the inside. If you've taken the Myth Course, you know these, and your $47 is credited toward this course automatically.
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And woven through all of it, the part that makes this course what it is: ten somatic practices, taught and led in real time, so every piece of understanding gets a place to land in your body.
MODULE 01
The 6 Core Patterns of Narcissistic People
The patterns. Not the personalities, not the labels, the patterns. Because narcissistic abuse isn't personal. It runs on patterns, 100 out of 100 times, and once you can see them, you stop wondering if it was you. You stop trying to argue them out of it. You stop being a moth to the flame.
Core Pattern #1: Consistently Inconsistent. The hot-and-cold dynamic that locked your nervous system in hypervigilance, and why intermittent reinforcement is more addictive than consistent cruelty.
Core Pattern #2: A Calculated Mind, Always in Control. What looks like spontaneity or charm, and the calculation underneath the performance.
Core Pattern #3: Only If It Is Convenient or Benefitting Me. Why their care, presence, and effort always ran on their schedule, and what that tells you.
Core Pattern #4: No Empathy. The hardest one for an empathetic woman to accept. Why your love can't fill what isn't there, and why staying isn't compassion, it's enabling.
Core Pattern #5: No Accountability. No Repair. Why the conversation that would heal it will never happen, and why your closure does not require their participation.
Core Pattern #6: No Sense of Boundaries. Not "they don't respect boundaries." There is no sense of them. And how to set yours anyway, without flinching, over-explaining, or collapsing into guilt.
A taste of the actual lessons inside this module:
The Hot-Cold Dynamic Punishing You for Changing Your Mind From Lovebombing to Inconvenience The Breadcrumbs Hoovering Future Faking Gaslighting Guilt-Tripping Projection Using Your Vulnerability Against You Small Putdowns Selective Rewards & Conditional Love Twisting the Plot: Reality Is Flexible “Keeping Score” Word Salads DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim & Offender The Kombucha Bottle of Insecurity and Shame Stop Ruminating: The Humming Box Practice
If you just felt your stomach drop reading three of those, that's not a coincidence. That's recognition. There's a lesson for every single one.
MODULE 02
The 5 Types of Narcissism
Once you see the patterns, you'll start seeing how they show up in completely different packaging, and you'll stop missing it because "he wasn't loud" or "she wasn't mean."
The Grandiose. The loud one, the obvious one, the one most people picture.
The Vulnerable. The one your empathy fell for, the one who "needed rescuing," the one whose victimhood was the trap.
The Malignant. The cold one, the cruel one, the one where no contact isn't a choice but the only option.
The Communal / Spiritual. The humanitarian, the guru, the volunteer. The one everyone loves and the one you can't tell anyone about, because nobody would believe you.
The Self-Righteous. Always right, always the moral high ground, always the reasonable one. And somehow you're always the one apologizing.
You'll learn how each type loves, lies, lures, and discards. You'll know which type you were entangled with. You'll know which type your mom was. Your boss. Your sister. The one your best friend just married.
This is the language of recognition, and recognition is the beginning of liberation.
MODULE 3
The 7 Myths That Kept You Stuck
The patterns explain them. The myths explain you, the loving, intelligent, capable you that stayed, went back, kept explaining, kept hoping. Seven beliefs that held the door shut from the inside:
01 They Were Born This Way (So I Should Have Compassion)
02 But They're So Driven and Passionate (Surely That Means Something).
03 They Wouldn't Do That to Me (I'm Different).
04 What If They Change After I Leave?
05 Once They Finally Understand, It Will Click.
06 They're Genuinely a Good Person Underneath It All.
07 They're Doing Better Than I Am (And It's Killing Me).
Already took the Myth Course?
All seven live here too, in their full live-class context with the surrounding material and somatic practices integrated, so you can revisit them whenever life surfaces something new. Many women find a myth that didn't fully land the first time clicks open six months later. And your $47 is automatically credited toward this course, so you never pay for the same work twice.
The piece almost every other course skips. The piece that is this course.
Ten somatic practices, taught and led in real time, embedded throughout the lessons exactly where you'll need them: before the heavy material, after the grief, in the middle of the recognition that takes your breath.
Breath Grounding Nervous System Regulation Movement Body Inquiry
The "what do I need right now" check-in. The deep exhale that releases shame. The grounding that tells your body the danger is over.
These are not a side dish. They are the architecture and the reason this course produces a different result than the eleven books on your nightstand, because the books spoke to your mind, and your mind was never the problem.
You'll feel the difference in your chest, your jaw, your sleep, your shoulders, your gut. Not just in your head.
Because the body is where it lived, and the body is where it heals.
""It's like a spiritual gym. I don't even fully know how to explain it, but it works."
— Alexandra W.
And then there are the bonus lessons.
These weren't in the original outline. They came in during the live class because women asked, because something needed to be said, because the conversation went somewhere I hadn't planned but needed to go. I kept every one of them for you.
Asshole vs. Narcissist: The Distinction That Sets You Free. Not everyone who hurt you is a narcissist. Some people are just assholes. The difference matters, and not knowing it keeps you stuck.
Avoidant or Narcissistic: How to Tell Which One You're Dealing With. The attachment crowd says he's avoidant. The narcissism crowd says he's covert. Both can be true. Neither is the same. Here's how to tell.
Emotional Abuse vs. Narcissistic Emotional Abuse: The Critical Distinction. Because the wrong frame keeps you fixing the wrong problem.
Nobody Is That Important. A reset on the pedestal you didn't realize you'd built. Said with love, and with teeth.
Why You Can't Remember the Pain (and What to Do About It). The neuroscience of trauma bonding, and the somatic practice that keeps the truth in your body when your mind tries to soften it.
Grief Awareness: What You're Actually Mourning. You're not just grieving them. You're grieving the version of you who believed it would work.
Re-Learning What You Actually Want. When you've spent years asking "what do they want," you forget. We start with what kind of water you want, sparkling or still, and rebuild from there.
My Standards for Relationships (And Why You Get to Have Yours). The non-negotiables I wrote after everything. Not a template to copy but permission for you to write your own.
Just What You Needed to Hear. A closing transmission. The words I wish someone had said to me when I was where you are.
A few words from the women who walked this path before you.
(All shared with permission.)
Working with Steffi completely opened my eyes, because it wasn't just someone telling me to 'just leave.' She helped me actually understand why I was stuck. It wasn't just mindset coaching, it was nervous system work, it was somatic healing, it was feel-it-in-your-body healing. Now I feel so much more grounded and confident. I'm way better at setting boundaries without feeling guilty after. I don't default to people-pleasing to keep the peace anymore. I actually feel protective over myself, and that's a really good thing.
— Liv
Course participant
I finally, finally, finallyI trust my voice, my boundaries, and what I want to call into my life. This work is transformational for anyone who's ready.
— Katie
Course participant
I was doing a lot of inner work already, reading, journaling, meditation, but I was still stuck in the same patterns, like they were engrained in my nervous system. Working with Steffi shifted everything because it went beyond understanding into something I could actually feel in my body. It's like a spiritual gym. I don't even fully know how to explain it, but it works. Now I have a much stronger sense of self. I'm more vocal about what I need. I process emotions in a healthy way. Nothing in my external world necessarily changed, but how I exist within it completely has.
— Alex G.
Course participant
I finally let go of my people pleaser, what a big relief and shift in everything: the relationships at work and with my partner. Working with Steffi really made me believe in myself for the first time.
— Dr. Yvonne Löwer
Head of Learning & Development, Heraeus Electronics
Oh my God, I am blown away. I feel like you were telling my story. Thank you, you have already made a difference in my life.
— Nicole H.
Course participant
This is the reassurance that it's not in your head. It made me think about more stories, more events that supported the fact that my relationship was not healthy. I'm starting to see patterns in my life and back to my childhood, the full circle of where I was, where I got to, and where I'd like to be after this.
— Emma
Course participant
WHAT STARTS TO CHANGE
Let me paint you the picture your mind keeps asking for.
A few weeks from now, somewhere in the middle of an ordinary day, you notice your phone buzz. And that's all it does. It just buzzes. No spike in your chest, no bracing, no split-second story about what you did wrong. You pick it up when you feel like it.
You sleep through the night more often than you don't, because your body has stopped holding a meeting about that conversation from six months ago.
Someone calm asks you out, or sits across from you at work, and calm doesn't read as boring anymore. Intensity doesn't read as love. You can feel the difference now, in your body, in real time, and that difference changes who gets access to you.
You hear his name, or her name, and it's information, not an event you need to tell your therapist about.
And the energy that used to go into managing, explaining, decoding, and hoping comes home to you. You get to spend it on your own life, which is, after all, the only one you've got.
None of this is magic. It's what happens when 80 small lessons and ten somatic practices teach your nervous system, repetition by repetition, that the danger is over. Women a few steps ahead of you on this road wrote the words you just read above. The only difference between you and them is the start date.
I WANT MY ENERGY BACKEverything you get when you enroll today.
The Full Course. 80 lessons in audio and video, 1 to 5 minutes each, built so you can do this work in the small pockets of your day without overwhelming your nervous system that's already been overwhelmed enough.
The 6 Core Patterns, 5 Types, and 7 Myths taught in full depth. Live-recorded in March 2026.
$497 + $197 + $29710 somatic practices integrated throughout. Breath, grounding, regulation, body inquiry, movement.
$5009 bonus lessons that emerged from the live class.
$450The 108-Page Workbook. Printable, fillable, deeper than the lessons. More than a journal of your own awakening you can return to for the rest of your life.
$147The Course Community. Comment threads inside every lesson, where you'll see your story in another woman's words, and she'll see hers in yours. You are not doing this alone, and for most women that recognition is medicine.
$107Lifetime Access. Yours forever. Come back in six months, six years, or the next time your body starts signaling something is wrong. It will be here, like a soft landing pad.
Total real value: $2,195. Standard price: $544.
Your price today, with your $47 Myth Course credit:
$497
And one more number, because you're the kind of woman who runs the numbers.
Count what this relationship has already cost you. Not just money, though there was probably plenty of that. Count:
- ● The sleep.
- ● The friendships that thinned out.
- ● The experiences you missed out on.
- ● The years of energy spent on someone else's chaos.
Against that ledger, $497 to get the rest of your life back isn't an expense. It's the refund.
THREE WAYS TO ENROLL
Three ways into the same course. Choose your pace and your support level.
Your $47 Myth Course credit is applied automatically at checkout on every option.
Option 2: Payment Plan
$137/mo x4
Option 3: Premium - The Course + 2 Private Sessions with Steffi
$1270
One honest note about all three options: there's no countdown timer on this page and there never will be. You've had enough manufactured urgency for one lifetime. The only real limit is the Premium seats, because my calendar is finite. Everything else will be here when you're ready. I just hope, for your sake, that's today.
My 30-Day Results Guarantee.
I want this course to land for you, deeply, in your body.
If you've shown up, done the lessons, sat with the practices, opened the workbook, and it's truly not resonating or helping within 30 days of enrollment, email my team and we'll refund you. No interrogation, no shame, no awkward hoops.
I've held this work with over 1,200 women across workshops, retreats, corporate facilitations, and programs, and the same patterns surface again and again, because they're patterns, not personalities. The work is replicable, and it works when you do it. I'd rather you feel safe saying yes than talk yourself out of the thing that might finally move you.
Is this you?
This is for you if:
- ✓ You're the high-functioning one, the woman everyone else leans on, and this is the one thing you haven't been able to fix by being smart about it.
- ✓ You've done the reading, maybe the therapy, maybe the Myth Course, and you can feel that the missing piece isn't more information.
- ✓ You're not even fully sure it was abuse, and you're tired of arguing both sides in your own head.
- ✓ You left years ago and you're still stuck: still dating the same archetype, still fawning at work, still walking on eggshells around your mother.
- ✓ You want the work to land in your body, not just your mind, because understanding alone never quite freed you.
This is not for you if:
- — YYou want me to tell you he'll change if you just love him better. I won't, because it wouldn't be true, and that hope is one of the seven things keeping you stuck.
- — You won't do the practices. The somatic work is the architecture of this course, not a bonus track. If you only want concepts, the books on your nightstand already gave you those.
You're still in physical danger. Your safety comes first, and this course is not the first step. Please reach out to a domestic violence resource where you are before anything else.
Honest answers to the questions you're asking yourself right now.
I already bought the Myth Course. Is the full course worth the additional $497?
Is this for me if I'm still in the relationship?
Is this for me if I left years ago but I'm still stuck?
What if the narcissistic person in my life isn't a partner, but my mom, my sister, my boss?
What if I can't tell whether it was narcissistic abuse or whether I'm just too sensitive?
I'm exhausted. How will I get through 80 lessons?
I've already spent so much on this relationship, therapy, books, all of it. How do I know this isn't one more thing?
What if I cry the whole way through?
I haven't done the Myth Course. Should I start there?
Can I gift this to someone I love?
What exactly happens in the two Premium sessions?
How is this different from therapy?
Why should I trust you with this?
ONE MORE THING
You came to this page for a reason.
Maybe the myths cracked something open and you want the rest. Maybe you typed something into Google at 2 AM you didn't want anyone to see. Maybe a friend sent you the link, or a reel made you cry on the bus and you finally typed the phrase you'd been avoiding.
However you got here, what really brought you here is your body. Your nervous system has been trying to tell you something for a long time.
This course is the language for what it's been saying.
You are not crazy. You are not too much. You are not the problem.
You are a woman whose body has been holding too much for too long, and you don't have to keep holding it alone.
Take a deep breath. Exhale, slower.
And when you're ready:
I'll see you inside.
Steffi
If you are in immediate danger or experiencing a mental health crisis, please reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) or a local crisis service in your area. This course is for education and personal growth — it is not a substitute for emergency support.
